October 14, 2014
October marks Let’s Talk Month, aimed at getting families talking about sexuality and relationships, and this year the Center for Latino Adolescent and Family Health (CLAFH) at New York University’s Silver School of Social Work and Planned Parenthood Federation of America are emphasizing how important it is for parents to go beyond “the talk” and have ongoing conversations throughout their children’s lives.
Planned Parenthood and CLAFH polled parents and their children aged 9-21 to investigate how well families communicate about sexuality and relationships. The poll was conducted in July 2014 by GfK Custom Research, LLC on behalf of Planned Parenthood and CLAFH.
The results of the 2014 Let’s Talk Month survey show that while both parents and children report that they are talking about sexuality and relationships and do not report many barriers to conversations, many parents aren’t talking very much or very specifically. For example:
“The survey shows that parents are talking, but they’re not talking about some of the topics that are most critical to protecting their children’s health. As teens get older, they need help with specific strategies for negotiating relationships and where to get information and services. It’s important for parents to both ask clear, direct questions about their children’s relationships and activities, so they know what is happening in their children’s lives and can have the opportunity to share their own values,” said Vincent Guilamo-Ramos, PhD, co-director of CLAFH and a professor of social work at New York University. “Parents can make a real difference in their teens’ decisions about sex—if they talk regularly about the things that influence decision making.”
A growing body of scientific evidence shows that certain topics influence young people’s sexual decision making and behavior more than others. Parents can make a difference in their teens’ sexual decision making by talking about whether or not their teens are ready for a sexual relationship and why, emotions that accompany having sex, what to expect from sexual relationships, and the advantages and disadvantages of having sex. Families Talking Together, developed by CLAFH investigators Guilamo-Ramos and James Jaccard, is an evidence-based program for families focused on these important topics. The program and materials are available for free here.
One way to make conversations about sex and relationships part of everyday life is to use pop culture that touches on sexuality, relationships, and reproductive health to open up conversations. Television can be a way to continually introduce these topics into family discussions. This year, Planned Parenthood Federation of America created “The Talk Show: Using Television to Talk to Your Children About Sex,” a guide that provides sample conversation-starters and guidance for parents.
Planned Parenthood affiliates throughout the country are holding special workshops and events to help families communicate about sex and relationships. These include communication skills workshops for parents and family nights to help parents and their children talk together.
“Planned Parenthood is committed to helping parents to be the primary sex educators of their own children,” said Leslie Kantor, Planned Parenthood Federation of America vice president for education. “For this year’s Let’s Talk Month, we wanted to find out more about the conversations parents and children are currently having about sexuality. What we found is that more parents need to be direct and specific when discussing topics of sexuality with their children, and they need to keep talking as their children get older.”
Planned Parenthood is the nation’s leading provider and advocate of high-quality, affordable health care for women, men, and young people, as well as the nation’s largest provider of sex education. With approximately 700 health centers across the country, Planned Parenthood organizations serve all patients with care and compassion, with respect and without judgment. Through health centers, programs in schools and communities, and online resources, Planned Parenthood is a trusted source of reliable health information that allows people to make informed health decisions. We do all this because we care passionately about helping people lead healthier lives. For more information, contact firstname.lastname@example.org
The Center for Latino Adolescent and Family Health at the NYU Silver School of Social Work investigates the role of parents in shaping the development and well-being of adolescents. Our research addresses key issues among Latino and other families and seeks to foster the development and evaluation of evidence-based interventions to prevent and reduce problem behaviors among youth. www.clafh.org
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